The Meaning Behind the Music
An interview with Kathy and Buddy Oliver
Kathy and Buddy Oliver met in the fall of 1987 at Lebanon Valley College where Kathy was majoring in social work and Buddy was majoring in Music. Their son, Bo, was born in 1996 followed by their daughter, Rachel, in 1998. After Bo’s cancer diagnosis in March of 2012, the Olivers began their relationship with The Ulman Cancer Fund; first as recipients of support and then as ardent supporters themselves, committed to improving the lives of young adults faced with cancer.
Tell us a little bit about Bo’s cancer journey and how Ulman fit into it.
Our son Bo was diagnosed with Ewing’s Sarcoma, a rare pediatric bone cancer, in March of 2012, while a sophomore in high school.
Bo’s initial course of treatment included 7 months of intense chemotherapy, radiation and then a stem cell transplant, to which his body’s response was very positive.
In March, 2014, the cancer returned once again. This time, a donor lymphocyte infusion (DLI) was recommended.
In May of 2015, we were told by our doctors that they had no further options to help Bo.
Regardless, we were able to extend his life through the use of multiple holistic treatments and therapies.
On June 1, 2016, Bo lost the toughest battle of his life. He faced the disease with a resilience, strength, and faith that was awe-inspiring.
We initially heard about Ulman through our social worker, Allie Gubin.
Bo was fortunate to have been a recipient of a scholarship through Ulman. We also received help through Helping Others Fight.
How did your own community rally around you while you?
We have been so blessed by our community.
They have held many fundraisers for us, made us countless number of meals, visited Bo in the hospital and at home, went along on appointments, cut our grass, cleaned our house, offered emotional support, organized and attended prayer vigils, and always loved on our family.
Buddy, in what ways has music impacted your life and how did you pass down your love of music to Bo?
Music has been the single largest influence in my life. I started listening to music as a small child as my father was a stereophile.
I started playing music in third grade and never stopped.
The summer after my high school graduation, I was privileged to play with a Jazz group at the Montreux Jazz Festival in Switzerland which was a milestone event in my life.
Music has even been an expression of my faith as I was a worship leader for almost 20 years.
For these reasons, Bo didn’t have a chance.
We have a photo of him at probably 2 years old sitting behind a drum set of an old bandmate of mine.
Our kids always were encouraged to do their own thing, he just always came back to music.
I believe certain talents are part of a person’s DNA, Bo’s DNA was a music staff full of notes.
He was truly gifted from birth and by the time he was in high school he was rivaling my 30 years of experience.
As a Junior in High School, he auditioned for, and was accepted to, one of the most prestigious music schools in the world, Berklee College of Music in Boston – which has produced almost 300 Grammy winners.
Besides his love of music, Bo was also known for his quick wit, incredible sense of humor, and his love of ‘Merica.
He had a definite sense of right and wrong and loved his family and fiance with all that he had. His faith was an integral part of who he was.
He had a presence that filled up a room when he entered it. He had the gift of being able to engage with people of all ages, backgrounds, and ideologies.
Kathy, you recently went on UCF’s Key to Keys Experience. What was that like?
I went into the Key to Keys ride thinking the biggest challenge was the physical part, the ride.
I had no idea how emotional the week would be. I was in a group of people that actually got how cancer impacted my life.
I was given the gift of being able to talk about Bo, tell his story and talk about the BoStrong Foundation.
I was also given the precious gift of being able to listen to other people’s stories. I have been blessed with being a part of another community of amazing people.
What is the BoStrong Foundation?
We established the BoStrong Foundation in 2017 with the mission of supporting holistic wellness for young adults fighting cancer and their loved ones through education, enrichment, engagement, and experience.
Our daughter Rachel and Bo’s fiance, Bailey Jones, serve as co-vice-presidents. They represent the organization and help with fundraisers and other organizational activities.
BoStrong’s current focus includes:
Teaming with Ulman Cancer Fund to provide a music healing space and supporting programming in the Ulman House.
Educating young adult cancer patients and their caregivers about holistic treatment options and therapies.
Instilling confidence in those on the cancer journey that it’s “OK” to take control of their treatment, ask questions and explore options.
Connecting patients with available resources to support them in their cancer battle.
At this point, Bo’s passion for music is pretty apparent, but why did you decide to create the music room in the Ulman House?
Bo’s own words describe the power of music best…
What I really needed was something that would relax me. Something that would pass the time and ease the horrible and terrifying battle that I had with Cancer. I knew it! My guitar. Every second I was on the inpatient floor I was playing my guitar. I truly believe that the guitar made me feel better. Music has such a way of relaxing you. I know for me, I get sucked into my playing. I’m in a different world. Whether I’m on stage with my band or in a dinky hospital bed with my amp plugged in next to me playing for my family and the nurses. Along with anyone else that wanted to hear. Music is a medicine that did more for me than Chemo ever would. Chemo wasn’t there to take away the stress of having Cancer. And it certainly didn’t make my time in the hospital enjoyable. Music made that experience bearable.